Sunday, February 9, 2014

Figuring It Out: Health (No More Excuses)

So apparently part of this whole "adult" thing is staying healthy and taking care of yourself. Now sometimes it seems that finding time to work, pay the bills, spend time with hubby, and doing photography on the side is about all I can handle.

Lately, physical activity (like running up and down hills at the airsoft field) makes me feel out of breath and pathetic. In college, I had plenty of Intramural sports and walking around campus to keep me active. I also had a free to use (well, part of my $49,900 tuition), brand new gym facility at my disposal. Thus, it was fairly easy to keep (somewhat) fit.

These days, there is no gym 150 yards from my door. I don't have healthy food already prepared and waiting for me (like in Lowry, even though "healthy" just meant chicken breast and the salad bar). I have to make fitness a priority in my life or it's just not going to happen. Recently, I have decided that I'm not making anymore excuses.


No more "I leave the house at 6am and don't get home until 7 or 8pm, so I don't have time."

I now leave the house at 4:45 to work out before work. It's painful sometimes, but it actually makes me feel better the rest of the day.

No more "But MAN that soda would be refreshing right now! I'll just have a glass."

I broke my addiction and haven't had soda for about 3 weeks now. It doesn't sound like much, but for the first few days it was REALLY hard to say no.

No more putting sugar in my coffee or tea.

Stevia is natural, has 0 calories, and doesn't taste like cancer.

No more eating as much as I want.

Because if I'm going to get my lazy buns up at 4am to get in a workout, I sure as HECK am not going to waste it by eating junk, or more than my stomach was ever meant to hold.

I know I'm going to mess up. I'm going to eat more than I should once in a while. I might even cave and have a chocolate bar for breakfast (not that I did this morning or anything.......) but I'm going to try to do it right. 

I've realized that, until this point, I've always talked about getting fit, being more healthy. Sometimes I'll even give up soda for a week, or go on a few walks. However, I haven't given it more than half an effort. Recently, I think something recently clicked:

Major change requires major effort. 

Until I actually apply myself and give it my all, no significant change is going to happen.

So I've been applying myself, and so far, I've lost 7 lbs! I've had more endurance while playing airsoft, felt better at work (which requires a lot of physical strength), and been more energetic throughout the day. Small things have begun to happen that show me my hard work is paying off- I'm wearing my belt a notch smaller. Water is much tastier than it used to be. I've been able to wake up and get out of bed easier.

I know I'm no where close to where I want to be, but if I keep up this effort, I believe it will pay off. I just can't wait to see the results :)


Thursday, January 16, 2014

The Most Important Lesson I Have Ever Learned

There are many lessons I've learned in this life-- always say your prayers, leave early when the weather is bad, don't leave chocolate in your pocket (especially not M&Ms--- not that I know that one from experience or anything...), etc. But there's one lesson that I've learned that continues to stay with me, and that I hope I never forget. There's a reason why it's cliché, why we've heard it a thousand times, and why it is still repeated anytime we're told to be thankful for what we have:

Cherish the loved ones you have today, because they could be gone tomorrow. 

This is something we often think we hear, but we really don't get until we lose someone we love. I know that it's something I'm still learning, even though I've been battered with loss of loved ones more than once. The incident that really made me learn my lesson was the death of my father, ten years ago to the day.

My Daddy was a constant in my life. He had limited office hours and worked from home a lot, so he was always around. I was definitely a "daddy's girl". He never had sons, but I feel as though I certainly filled some of the more stereotypical parts of the role. I would ask him to teach me how to use all of his tools, we threw the nerf football in the yard when he felt ok (back problems sometimes hindered normal physical activity), and I played sports. One thing remained the same, no matter what we did though- I loved spending time with my Daddy.

I remember the last interaction I had with him. We were engaging in our nightly ritual of watching TV together, my Daddy in his big chair, and me sitting on the arm curled up next to him. The shows were generally watched were somewhat violent, and not necessarily intended for a just-turned-13-year-old (for which Daddy received some scowling from Mom). Some of our favorites were Walker, Texas Ranger and Law and Order. We were discussing my concert scheduled for that Saturday. It was for jazz band, and I was going to perform my first solo in front of an audience. Normally he didn't attend my concerts because the metal chairs were hard on his back, but he was going to make this one. He was even going to bring my grandma. Needless to say, he never made it. 

I came home from school the next day and he was gone. He had a massive heart attack in his sleep. 

Gone in an instant, without warning.

There are no words for the amount of shock, pain, and surprise, that comes with the instantaneous loss of a such a huge part of your existence. I had always planned on Daddy being there, on him watching me grow up. And now, he wasn't going to experience any of that.

I was so sure he was going to plan on seeing me solo that weekend.

I hoped to make varsity tennis one day, and see him sitting on the sideline during a match.

I imagined him seeing me walk at my high school graduation, and at my college graduation.

I knew that, like every little girl, my Daddy would walk me down the aisle one day.

I even took for granted the jingle of the change in his pockets as he lumbered down the hall.

Well I didn't make the concert that weekend either. In a sweet gesture of condolence my band mates wore black armbands. I did make varsity tennis, but he never came to a match. He wasn't at my high school or college graduation. I put a charm with his picture on my wedding bouquet in his memory, but it was my wonderful, amazing mother who whisked her third daughter (me) down the aisle to the man of her dreams.

After 10 years, I still miss him every single day. We take most of our blessings for granted without even realizing it. Our last words to each other were, thankfully, loving. I don't know how I would handle it if I hadn't kissed him goodnight that night. Now, whenever I'm leaving someone I love, I always make sure to say "I love you", because I know in the back of my mind that I may not see them again. Maybe I'm paranoid, but I like to think that I'm just appreciative, and aware of the realities that face us in this life. I'm so thankful for all of the sweet memories I have of him, and that he got to see his little girl become a teenager. He taught me a lot while he was with us, but he also taught me the most important lesson I've ever learned. Again...

Cherish the loved ones you have today, because they could be gone tomorrow. 


I love you forever, Daddy. Rest in peace.


Wednesday, January 1, 2014

Figuring it Out: Money

Money is something that everyone, at one point or another, has struggled with. Everyone has to deal with money, whether they love it or hate it. The unfortunate part is that some of us are not as good with their money as others. The interesting thing about money is that we all know what we should do with it, but we don't do as we know we should! I heard a message in church a month or so back, and the pastor stated an age old truth that seems to get me every time.

"The wise man and the foolish man both see trouble coming. It is the wise man who takes steps to avoid trouble, and the foolish man who stays the course."

... or something like that...

Anyway, money is SO easy to be foolish with it's crazy. With all of the temptations constantly surrounding us, and advertising permeating every corner of our existence (Facebook, Google searches, billboards, telemarketers, YouTube, yada yada yada), it's easy to see why we want to max out our credit cards.

In a culture where status is determined by what you drive, what you wear, how big your house is, and what logo is plastered all over the purse your carrying, spending almost seems mandatory. To earn respect from others, we're tempted to buy it. We're encouraged from a young age to chase the American dream, no matter what the cost, even if it's beyond our means.

As a result, Hubby and I have embarked on a money-saving journey, attempting to cut corners and reduce our cost of living where we can. By talking to more experienced grown-ups and reading a lot of books written by people who know stuff about money, I've gathered some tips that have been helpful to me and (hopefully) might be helpful to you! Here we go!

Budget, Budget, Budget

I think this is the part that is the most helpful, yet is enjoyed the least. I've found that money only comes up short when you're surprised. Bills don't "just come up" if you plan for them ahead of time. If you know how much you make, and you know how much you spend, you won't be surprised and you'll always know where your money is going. 

Save, Save, Save

As much as we may plan ahead, life does occasionally surprise us with things that we can't plan on--- a flat tire, a clogged sewer for which we have to pay the plumber, the fridge breaks, etc. Typically it's those BIG things that break or go wrong that are the biggest surprises, and the ones we're often least prepared for. Just as we can budget for the known (water bill, car payment, etc.), we can also budget for the unknown by having an emergency fund.

If you're a follower of Dave Ramsey, you know that the first thing he says to do is save $1000. This way, while you're on your way to paying down credit cards and other debt, you aren't set back by having to put that new fridge or tire on plastic. Personally, even since we've just saved a few hundred dollars, I have felt much more secure knowing we have something to fall back on. A couple of emergencies depleted our savings a couple of months ago, so when we had no buffer I was always stressing about it. The piece of mind I get for putting money in the bank is well worth the pain of not spending our hard-earned money.

Buy in Bulk

While it might seem counterintuitive to spend more money to save money, it does work over time. Lately, I've been stocking up on the groceries that are on sale and, as a result, have seen a reduction in price on my meals. I also have to buy less of the things we need week-to-week. It may not seem like we're saving much up front, but saving a little on several different things really adds up. 

For example, we just bought a 275 load box of detergent for $12.99 (normally $25.99). If we bought the 150 oz. (90 load) jumbo Tide liquid detergent from Walmart, it would be $15.97. The box will last us about three times longer than the Tide, and it was about three dollars cheaper! So instead of paying almost 18 cents a load, I'm paying less than 5 cents per load. 

In a society of instant gratification, we would rather buy something we don't need at 50% off than pay more up front for something we know we'll use, even if it saves us money in the long run. 

Don't Tempt Yourself

I believe the hardest part of being smart with our money is actually doing what we plan on doing. Temptation is around every corner, and down every sale aisle. At the grocery store, I make sure I go with a list and buy only what is on the list. Granted, sometimes I'm bad and buy chips and salsa when I don't need them, but I spend waaaay less than when I go without a plan. Browsing in stores "just to look around" is also pretty dangerous. Some can actually go into a store and not buy anything, others come out with a new wardrobe before they can say,"Oh look it's on clearance!" You know your level of self-control, so use that knowledge to keep yourself away from situations where you know you'll spend money.

Use Cash

It sounds a little silly, especially when technology has gifted us with the convenience of a debit card. However, when we use cash, there is a tangible, very real sense of how much we're spending. There's no delay in when things post to your account, so the gas you got three days ago can't sneak up on you. I also find it a little easier to budget when I can put cash in different envelopes for gas, groceries, etc. We always draw bills from the account, since paying electronically goes through quicker than a check. Using the envelope system also helps to limit spending.


Don't Pay Full Price for ANYTHING

Obviously, there are some things you need that are never discounted. However, with a little planning ahead, you can get what you need for less. Here are some ways to save money that I've gleaned from both literature and personal experience:

-Buy things out of season, especially expensive things like coats and bathing suits, and holiday items. Buy you Christmas tree after Christmas, your Halloween stuff right after it goes on clearance, etc.

-Buy things USED. Everybody has too much stuff, and they're always trying to get rid of it. We've bought a washer and dryer, used it, and then sold it again for profit later. Craigslist and local facebook classifieds are awesome for finding things cheap!

-Watch your grocery ads and plan your meals around them, especially if it's meat that is on sale. Meat often accounts for a big chunk of the average grocery bill.

-Buy from the clearance rack, thrift stores, and discount clothing stores. It may take you more time to find what you need, but it's well worth it in the end.

-Plan ahead. If there's something you know you're going to need, save for it, and then wait for it to go on sale.

-Don't finance. There are certain things, like a house or car, that you may have to take a loan out for, but usually financing something like a new TV will only bite you later if you can't get it paid off in time. You don't know what money you'll have in the coming months, but you always (hopefully) know what you have now.

And Finally...

Of all the money-saving advice and tips I've gathered, it's important to remember that discipline is required to reap the benefits of smart spending. We have to learn to say two things:

No. 
&
Not right now.

It seems that every time I utter these words (and follow through with action) I save money. When I see a shirt on sale and I say no, I only feel remorse until I walk out of the store. "AW MAN!" suddenly becomes "Oh well!" and it feels good. I know how to save money, but the choice to be wise or foolish is completely up to me. 

In 2014, I hope to be wise!




Tuesday, December 31, 2013

Obligatory New Year's Post

2013 has by far been the biggest year in my life. Here are some things that I did this year!

Had my first Valentines day with an actual date, and a handsome one at that ;)


Completed the single biggest accomplishment of my academic career: Senior Independent Study


Planned a wedding... yeah... now that was a good time...

Saw one of my best friends marry the boy she had been crushing on since before freshman year even started. Here was a typical girl-talk before bedtime dialog:
Éowyn: I wish that vending machines could dispense bacon and husbands.
Me: You could always just marry Ben...
*silence*
*HYSTERICAL LAUGHTER*
Lo and behold, four years later...


I started Airsofting, and even joined a team with Hubby

Being intimidating is not my strong suit. 

I had the opportunity to do some really cool photography for some great people, including a wedding! Thanks, Alyssa :)




Shortly thereafter, I got married myself! I truly believe that God creates someone for everyone, and I definitely found my someone :)



'Cause that's how we roll...
After that, we went on an awesome cruise and Hubby stepped foot off US soil for the first time!


I started two new jobs, one at a wood shop, and one at A&P Gear Co., an airsoft store.

Went to my first Indians game!
OMERGERHD BERSBAHL!!!

Spent Christmas away from home for the first time ever.


And many more things that would take way to much time to list :)

While this year was the best, toughest, and most eventful of my life so far, I have a feeling 2014 will give this year a run for its money.

Here's to a New Year, and may the odds be ever in your favor.

Oops.

I mean, happy new year!





Thursday, December 26, 2013

Post-Christmas Post

Let me start by saying that I hope your Christmas was as wonderful as mine :) It was certainly different for me this year, as it was both the first Christmas in Ohio and my first Christmas away from my immediate family. While different, it was still wonderful! Christmas eve Adam and I were both off, so we got some work done around the house, and made our last-minute preparations.


Our lovely Christmas tree :)
We also went over to Adam's parents' house on Christmas Eve and had a wonderful dinner, complete with purple potatoes! Naturally, I dubbed them "Willy Wonka Potatoes". We then watched Jack Frost and The Christmas Shoes, both of which made me cry.

I know, I know--- they're just movies.


Plot: Dying parent reminds other parent how important family really is.
Plot: Dead parent comes back to show his family how important they are to him.

Christmas day we slept in, and then headed over to Grandma and Grandpa Ladrach's for Christmas lunch. After stuffing our faces, we opened presents and visited. It was great!

Best Things About Christmas are: Family

FOOD

And dessert of course!

Adam and I got some awesome presents this year, thanks to the generosity of our families. Adam loved his shirt from my mom, which he so flamboyantly modeled for us in front of the Christmas tree.

My husband, the model.
So, so silly!



After we got home we FaceTimed my sister's family and my mom, and prepared our things for the indoor airsoft event today. 


Finally, we wrapped up our Christmas with a viewing of Christmas Vacation and some homemade Eggnog. All in all, I am so thankful for Christmas. Not only did we receive the gift of a savior, but an opportunity to spend time together each year to remember the important things, to say no to work for once, and spend time with family. I hope you all had a Christmas as merry as mine was, and have a happy New Year!





Sunday, December 22, 2013

Peanut Brittle Fun!

One of my favorite things about the holiday season is doing things with family. Unfortunately, my side of the family is spread out all over the country. The upside is that Adam's family is nice and close by! We're only about 10 minutes from his immediate family and dad's parents, so we go over pretty frequently to visit. This past Wednesday I went over to Grandma's for a timeless Ladrach tradition:

making peanut brittle. 


A lot of heat and a ton of stirring make for some really good peanut brittle!

Mary (Grandma) has been making this recipe for years and has totally perfected it. I'm not normally one for peanut brittle, as the thought of fighting my way through a solid brick of candy mess just to get the taste is normally unappealing to me. However, Mary's peanut brittle is über thin, and melt-in-your-mouth tasty.


You can see Mary carefully supervising in the background ;)

This brittle is so good that Mary used to sell it back in the day. However, it is definitely a labor of love. While the brittle is cooking, constant attention is required. Certain ingredients must be added at certain temperatures in order for the brittle to turn out right.





After the brittle is done cooking, it has to be poured onto a cookie sheet and promptly stretched before it hardens. This can be a painful process, as it's still very hot while it's being hand-stretched. The pain makes for good sister-in-law bonding, as Aimie and I were tasked with stretching the hot candy. Despite all the effort and pain, the final product is SO worth it. Observe the glory:



So thin you can see the light shining through it. So delicious I'm going to go downstairs and get some now...

What's your favorite Christmas tradition? Comment below!

Friday, December 20, 2013

Figuring it Out: Meals

One of the biggest challenges in this whole "grown-up" thing has been figuring out meals. Breakfast (some days). Lunch (most days). Dinner (always...duh).

For a while, we went by the "fly by the seat of our pants" method. We would buy whatever looked good at the grocery store, and I would whip things together when I felt like it. If it was a busy night, or there weren't the right pieces to make an actual meal in the fridge, we would just get fast food, or hit up the pizza parlor across the street.

When the grocery bills seemed WAY too high for just the two of us, and we realized how much we were eating out, I started going to the grocery store with a list. I would have a few meals in mind, and a general idea of a budget. We also started trying to limit what we spent on meals away from home, and things got a little bit better.

Eventually though, the budget got tighter and we HAD to reduce our food bill even more. After reading America's Cheapest Family Gets You Right on the Money, I was inspired to take our grocery bill by the horns. Here are some things I've been doing to reduce our grocery bill.

1) Limits- I make sure we put limits on eating out. Max of 1 sit-down meal per paycheck, and we generally plan for one meal a week that's under $10. Hubby meets with his small group at Jitters after work, so he'll get dinner there. If I know he's not going to be home, I'll pick up a $5 footlong so I don't cook a whole meal for just myself.

2) Plan a Menu- This is probably the hardest part. It takes a little bit of time, but since I've built up more and more recipes, I'm able to look at the local grocery store ads and plan meals around what's on sale. If chicken is on sale, I'll make Easy Chicken Enchiladas. If there's pork loins on sale, I can make Crispy Pork Cutlets with Asian Slaw.




3) Stock Up- There are certain items that I will always use in my meals, like "cream of ____" soups and chicken broth. When these things are REALLY cheap (like, 50% off or less), I stock up. Instead of buying the one can of broth I'll get 4. Maybe I'll buy the 5 pound bag of rice instead of the 1 pounder. One thing that's important though, I try to account for about $10 extra for "stocking up" beyond what my normal groceries should cost. Depending on what you make regularly, these are things you may want to stock up on:


  • butter
  • cheese
  • broths and soups
  • cream cheese
  • drinks (like juice or tea)
  • canned tomatoes, beans, corn, mandarin oranges, etc.
  • TOILET PAPER and paper towels, because really, you'll always need them
  • Meat (buy then freeze, we'll talk about that in a minute)
  • breadcrumbs
  • flour
  • sugar
  • salt
  • rice
  • mac n' cheese
  • frozen pizza
Notice that the things on this list don't spoil quickly. If you stock up on things that do spoil, then you may end up wasting more than you save. Another thing to notice is that these items tend to be bases or sides in a lot of different recipes.

4) Use your Freezer- Some things freeze well. Some things don't. Meat is expensive (it accounts for most of our grocery budget), but at least it freezes and thaws well. If ground beef is on sale, I buy as much as I can. It's very versatile, and you know you're going to use it before it'll go bad in a freezer (anywhere from 6 months to a year or more). You can also freeze some fruits and vegetables. I freeze blueberries and use them in smoothies for breakfast, or in pancakes. I only used half of a pack of green onions I bought, so I chopped up all of them and froze them. Now they're ready to garnish whatever I please!

5) Eat Your Leftovers- Seriously. Most recipes are waaaay too much for 1-2 people, and it makes easy lunch the next day. Just make sure whatever you cook is something that re-heats well!

So it's time to grocery shop again, eh?

Here's a step-by-step of my weekly routine:
  1. Look at the ads. What looks good, and what's on sale?
  2. Plan the meals. Don't forget breakfast, lunch, and snack foods! It can be as simple as buying meat, bread and cheese for lunches for the week, or just granola bars for breakfast. You know what you like to eat :)
  3. Make your grocery list! Here are some of the things that I make sure I always have on hand, since they're used in almost everything I make.
    -Milk
    -Butter
    -Cheese
    -Bread
    -Onion
    -Tomato
    -Eggs
    -Potatoes
  4. This is the hardest one- buy only what is on your list! We all get sucked into it... that feeling when you go to the grocery store (especially when you're hungry), and everything just looks so good. You want to put it in your cart, but don't. That's how a $50 grocery trip turns into $100 trip. Each "little thing" that gets thrown into the cart adds up!
  5. Keep a running tally of what you're spending as you check off your list. Sometimes this will help me decide if it's in the budget to stock up on an item, or get a gourmet treat for Hubby and I (like homemade spinach dip). 
That's it! Hopefully you found this post helpful, and if you have strategies you use, please share them in the comments below so we can all benefit :) Thanks!!!